QUEST Conflict Resolution
QUEST Conflict Resolution Coaching Model
1. Qualify and Quantify the Conflict
Qualify
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Parties Involved: Who is involved in this conflict?
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Nature and Scope: Determine the nature and scope of the conflict.
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Agreement to Mediate: Confirm agreement to mediate or coach.
Quantify
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Conflict Intensity: Use a Conflict Intensity Scale to gauge the severity of the conflict and who needs to be involved in mediation.
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Assessments: Use available assessments such as:
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DISC Personality Assessment (Measures an individual’s personality traits, behavior patterns, and communication styles)
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EQ/EI Assessment (Measures an individual’s Emotional Intelligence level)
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Working Genius Assessment (Evaluates individuals’ natural talents and inclinations in work-related contexts, focusing on how they approach and execute tasks and projects)
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2. Understand Current Situation and Perspectives
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Personal Significance: Why is this conflict important to you?
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Events Leading Up: What events or choices have led to this situation?
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Previous Actions: What have you done so far to address the conflict?
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Current Status: Describe what’s happening now.
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Similar Conflicts: Have you experienced similar conflicts before?
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Frustrations: What is frustrating your progress?
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Emotions: What emotions are surfaced by this conflict?
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Involvement: Who else is impacted?
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Barriers: What has stopped you from resolving this conflict?
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Resources: What resources are needed to resolve this, and are they available?
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Actions Taken: What steps have you already taken?
The Listening Loop — Questions to Explore:
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And what else?
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Tell me more about that.
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Did I understand you correctly?
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Is there anything else?
3. Envision a Resolution
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Desired Resolution: How would you articulate your desired resolution?
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Goals: What is your goal in resolving this conflict?
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Resolution Vision: Imagine the conflict is resolved. What does that look like?
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Future Relationship: Where do you want to be in your relationship with the other party in the future?
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Impact: How will resolution impact you/others?
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Ideal Resolution: In an ideal world, what would the resolution look like?
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Success Indicators: How will you know the conflict is resolved?
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Unlimited Resources: If resources were not an issue, what would you do?
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No Failure: If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you do?
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Potential Resolutions: Have you thought about potential resolutions?
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Advice to a Friend: If a friend had this conflict, what would you suggest?
The Listening Loop — Questions to Explore:
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And what else?
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Tell me more about that.
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Did I understand you correctly?
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Is there anything else?
4. Strategize a Path Forward
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Action Steps: What steps can you take to resolve this conflict?
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Creative Solutions: Explore at least 3 potential solutions. What else could you do?
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Chosen Option: Which option do you want to pursue?
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Obstacles: Are there any obstacles that could get in the way?
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Support/Resources: What support or resources will you need?
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Prioritize Steps: What are the necessary steps? What should happen first?
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Weekly Steps: What step can you take this week? Are you willing to commit?
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Address Obstacles: What obstacles might prevent completion of the steps?
The Listening Loop — Questions to Explore:
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And what else?
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Tell me more about that.
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Did I understand you correctly?
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Is there anything else?
5. Test the Commitment and Take Action
Test the Commitment
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Resolution Goal: What is the resolution goal you have decided to pursue?
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First Step: What is the first step you plan to take?
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Commitment Level: On a scale of 1 to 10, how committed are you? What can increase your commitment?
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Action Plan: What will you do first? When? What support/resources do you need?
Test Session Results
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Session Goal: Restate the goal of the session.
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Effectiveness: Do you feel we accomplished the goal?
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Success: Was today’s session helpful? A success?
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Next Steps: Discuss and encourage the next step. Close the session.
The Listening Loop — Questions to Explore:
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And what else?
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Tell me more about that.
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Did I understand you correctly?
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Is there anything else?